You just got to feel it
So you and your partner are all revved up. Whether you are familiar with each other or not it is good to have a “feel” for the situation. The best way is foreplay. If you’ve been together for a long time, perhaps you know “where to start” (or at least think you do… is it just routine?). Maybe you’re new to each other and don’t. So — what should you do?
Close your eyes and relax. You can ask them to do the same if you want. Start with some light touching or kissing on the ears, neck, or lips. How do they respond? Touch a hip or rub a back. What is the reaction? Slide your hand allow their arm and legs. What is the response? Are they leaning in sometimes? Making a noise just so? Maybe they are subtly directing you in a different direction — more kissing and don’t touch my neck.
While verbal communication is important, “feeling” their more subtle motions and listening to them and their body is important too. The “unsaid” words. Often people aren’t comfortable telling their partner to not touch their ear because it feels weird, it might be more of a slight roll over or subtle guiding of the head away from that spot.
Great start! Now, do they feel like they want more? Slide your hand over their breast or chest. Are you feeling a reaction? Maybe they aren’t ready for that or maybe they are. Touch their nipple? Are you getting a response they like it? Maybe you need to pull back or try something else.
Maybe what worked in the past isn’t working tonight. You need to feel where to go next… and when! Maybe you need to move extra quick tonight. Maybe it is a slow and sensual night.
Feel your way along the path. You may not get to intercourse but it is sex all the same. If you get good at feeling your partner, you can get where you need to go and everyone can enjoy the journey wherever it takes you.
